Different From Your Spouse? Good!

In life, often couples get busy in different directions. One could be busy building the family home while the other is raising kids.

Even the pursuits of spouses could be very different. One may be busy pursuing a career while the other is building a business.

Such contexts create gaps and holes in the intimacy and communication between the spouses. It is like two living together under one roof but are vastly different from each other.

You might think: How could such type of spouses mingle up and understand each other with all those differences?

Well I see this as individuals completing each other with one way or another. I don’t mean you are incomplete and your spouse completes you. Instead I point to the idea that it creates an interesting spark, flavour and curiosity in the conversation. You will find such spouses talking, arguing, presenting different sets of ideas and opening doors to allow themselves to be as they are different, genuine and authentic.

So don’t get upset when you find your spouse to be different from you mentally and emotionally sometimes. Take it the other way round. Convert it to: Aha, that is interesting. What else could this tell me? Oh I am frustrated now. What does this mean? Oh ok. He/she is psychologically in that state. And I am in a different state. Ok. That is where we are at.