Experiencing people as they are

Sometimes we face situations and meet people with behaviors that don’t make sense to us. Sometimes you think it’s not fair. People shouldn’t be living like this. Isolated, alienated from each other and attacking each other with their private intentions.

But then I remember this. We all are different. We have been created and designed separately, individually and uniquely. No one is like you. And others won’t ever be like you.

Then I also keep in mind the tempting set-up we are living. The market encourages you to buy. The social set-up invites you to accept extra tasks. Friends and families convince you of a script you need to follow. Then you see yourself trapped like a victim. You find yourself stuck. You think there are no options there available for you except to wait and suffer.

In such dilemmas I like to use this mantra: See the situation and the person as they are. Don’t comment much. Don’t add extra mental labels there. If you don’t like a specific behavior, just say: Ok. That is where the person is at. The person is doing the best they can with the knowledge they have. It doesn’t make sense to you because you are at a different stage in life. Your knowledge is different. Your intentions are different. Your perspective and philosophy towards life is different. And that’s ok.

When you process situations and people this way, you escape the unnecessary drama. The life events follow each other with less resistance from the individuals involved. The solution to the complexity in the situation comes out smoothly and naturally. The blame, judge and critic become inactive.

At the end, I don’t provoke the idea that whatever people are doing is right. This post is to point that our individual differences do exist. It is ok to find yourself and the other person at different mental and psychological states. And when you catch yourself resisting why the other person is behaving that way, just go deep and do your private reflection and processing. There you would find compassionate understanding, acceptance and peace.