What is Avoidance Attachment?
Avoidance attachment is something I personally struggle with from a very young age.
It appears in situations like:
Having a conversation where feelings are not considered
When there isn’t any compromise in the conversation and you decide to stop communicating
When there isn’t a mutual understanding, you get emotional and decide to shut down and go silent.
Well these are typical scenarios. But you may wonder: What does this: Avoidance Attachment, mean?
It means when you are emotionally triggered for whatever reason, you go silent and avoid communicating. You think it is too painful. It hurts. It is too emotionally painful. As a result, you decide: It is better to close off and shut down the communication.
When you understand this type of attachment and work with it closely, you realize the steps you need to take to regulate this pattern.
We are not kids any more to avoid or close off. We are grown-up adults. When such pattern boils up, the best thing to do is communicate it, be frank about it and humbly laugh it out. It is ok if it hurts. But don’t ignore it. Don’t surpress it. Don’t hide it. Just talk about it. Add language to it. And this mental and emotional knot would be resolved in a healthy way.