What is instead of Why is

A common habit you see nowadays is people judging why this had to happen. Why the person is like that. Why the situation had to be like this.

While watching and reflecting this habit, I remember some of the recites from the Holy Book of Quran when Allah requests us to look at the food we are watching, experience the life we are living and remember our origin and where we come from.

Those recites encourage me to shift my focus from why this had to happen to what is happening. Look at the situation as it is without further comments and judgments. Here you would eventually realize the answer you are looking for.