How to be just YOU?

Thinking about what others think, what others say and what others feel. All these create obstacles for you to be just you in the moment.

But let us reverse for a moment here. Why thinking about others? Why thinking about what they think? Why worrying what they say about us? Why obsessing what they feel about us? Is it that we are so important and special? Is it because of our personal ego? Is it because we want to prove something? Is it because we want to get approval or permission that we never got when we were little children? Is it the inner feeling that we are still kids and others are superior to us? Is it the unfinished or uncompleted pattern thought we learned from the past?

When you do this, you strip your mind of its mask and covers and sit down with it weak, vulnerable and sorry but also naked. Here you confront your mind one to one. You face your mind tricks and manipulations. Also you process and educate your mind of the reality and what makes sense and what doesn’t.

As a result, now you are becoming just you in the midst of all those egoic patterns. You allow yourself to be you and others to be them. You stop manipulating and seeking for others’ approval and/or permission. You stop meeting others’ expectations.

I can’t say this is easy. It can get scary at times. Because once you do this, things start to shift. People disappear. New connections emerge. Careers switch. Relationships transform. And the whole of your life change.