The Level of Intimacy with Aging Parents

When your parents grow old and you witness them in that vulnerable state when they request to see you frequently, talk to you regularly and bring all the excuses so that you leave everything and go attain to their needs. That is so emotional and touching experience.

I can’t count the number of times I wish to spend more time with my parents, chat, hang out together and spend quality time. Of course the business of life when you have many responsibilities to complete at home, with kids, doing your business or other related work can take you away from spending more time with your parents.

But when that space and availability of time arrives, and you are there sitting and connecting with your parents, something wonderful happens. You find your parents brainstorm with you and ask you for opinions and suggestions. Also they reveal their inner fears and doubts with you waiting to receive your attention and permission. And best of all, the sweet and funny moments happen when your children play with them and ask for toys and presents.

When you understand and become aware of the physical and emotional state your parents are currently at, your intimacy level increases. You become more present and available. Your experience with your parents become more special and memorable. And you would create plans and routines where your parents are humbly involved.