Love Languages

Nowadays I witness different love languages when interacting with people. They appear in the form of spending quality time together, expressing concerns and worries, doing acts of service, and comforting the other person with kind words.

If you want to understand the power of love languages, you got to open your mind and heart to understand the love language of yourself and other people. Why? Because we differ in our self-expressions. And by understanding the other person’s love language and yourself, you get to tune yours to adapt to the other person’s language when communicating.

I can’t deny this gets tough many times. Because we live our day-to-day life with our internal wounds too. We think our loved ones should fill our emotional traumas and satisfy us emotionally.

But the harsh truth is: Our loved ones are not supposed to please us emotionally and neither do we. Each one of us is responsible for his/her emotional and mental wellbeing. Actually we are meant to thrive together and partner eachother with our different sets of skills, dreams, strengths and aspirations.

So if you are just starting out in this field of understanding love languages, look around you. What love languages do you see? Which love language you notice yourself using most of the time? When you adjust your communication to match the love language of the other person, what happens to the communication and interaction?

Tip: Check the book: The five love languages by Gary Chapman, to better understand the concept.