Scared to Upset Someone?

This is a fear many people pleasers have. The fear to upset a person. The fear to disappoint someone. The fear to cause disruption in the conversation.

But looking at it deeply, what are your intentions? During the conversation, do you intend to please the other person, or could you choose to be truthful and authentic?

What is it about upsetting someone? Is it the hard feelings that could boil up? Is it the avoidance of embarrassment feeling? Or is it the conditioning that your feelings don’t matter, and it is only about the other person’s feelings?

Looking at this from a distance, people are created from sand and clay. They breath, eat, drink and sleep. Whatever strong feelings you have, they also have. And most importantly, we all are temporary guests in this earth hotel in which our checkout date (our death date) could be today, tomorrow or any other day.

Realizing this truth encourage you to reflect deeper. If he or she is going to die, sooner or later, why am I so scared to upset him or her? If we all are equal humans and whatever you have, I have and the only thing that separates us is our awareness and belief towards Allah, then why we get nervous when a person is about to get upset?

These questions are necessary to work with if you are questioning your internal beliefs and thoughts.