The Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection. What is it all about? Are we scared of being rejected?

What is rejection anyway? Is it a fear not to belong? Is it a fear not to fit in? Is it trying to prove something? Is it the idea of not enough and trying to prove your God-given worthiness?

When I look at the fear of rejection, I see a childhood wound saying: I am not enough. I am not worthy. I am not deserving. I gotta prove something. I don’t belong unless I do something. I will be abandoned if I don’t fit in. I will be rejected if I don’t try hard enough.

Well this dilemma shows the need to belong. This need can’t be filled by fitting in or hiding.

What I noticed from life experiences is the pretending and hiding because of fear of rejection brings you far away from your authentic truth as a human being.

It is only a temporary short-term way to numb the fear of rejection.

When you refer to your humanity, you realize your belonging actually doesn’t fit into the box of proving yourself or meeting others’ expectations. It is actually something far different, human and individual.

Look at you. You are human. You exist here because you are already precious and valuable. You breath because you are privileged. The need to prove yourself and the need to be enough is just a myth we picked along the way that led to our fear of rejection today.

Work with it. Put language and awareness around it. Talk about it with the people you trust and see what happens.